4 Powerful Things That Will Make Him Choose You Over Her

If you’re in a situation where you feel like the man you want is into you and someone else, I want you to consider the four points I’m going to talk about today. I know being in this situation is not ideal and may send you into panic mode. However, I’m hoping my advice will help you get what you want.

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Four Powerful Things That Will Make Him Choose You Over Her

1. Connection

Can you really connect with him? Your connection with a man can be more powerful than sex and attraction – especially in the long run.

Being able to share a laugh, a belief, hobby, or relate to one another over a similar life experience can establish an attraction far beneath the surface.

Instead of focusing on his relationship with the other woman focus on your connection with him. Build on that by being present and vulnerable.

The woman who shares fun and inspiring moments with him without badgering him with questions and concerns about the relationship or someone else will always win.

This conveys that he has something special with you and at the same time it demonstrates your high-value and self-confidence.

You can check out my post on how to be a high-value woman for more detailed advice on this.

I know it’s hard to know that he may be choosing another woman over you but try not to focus on that.

If you do it will only make the other woman look that much more desirable. Just be calm and remember you are the prize.

2. Being authentic and unique

If you’re being honest and unashamed about who you are you will discover that you are unique and different in your own way.

Where many women go wrong is trying to be who they think the guy wants them to be. Men can see through that and it’s a huge turnoff.

So if you notice the other girl dressing or talking a certain way and he seems to respond positively to that don’t change to be like her.

What I recommend doing is playing up your own unique qualities and style.

Make sure you are really representing who you are at your core. Your uniqueness is what makes a man attracted to you.

Also, try to take on the attitude of take me or leave me.

You shouldn’t be mean about it but remember that when you are being real it shows that you have high self-esteem, you’re authentic and high-value. 

All you have to focus on is being the best version of yourself. Just let him see that.

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3. Being a challenge

You may feel like now is not the time to be challenging or maybe that you need to lower your standards.

The truth is men love a challenge and they don’t value what they didn’t have to work for. If you want to be chased and chosen don’t make it too easy for him.

Keep your own life and schedule. Being in this situation may prompt you to feel like you need to be with him as much as possible.

You may feel the need to subtly convince him that you’re the girl for him and express how much you like or love him. Do not do this.

Sure you want him to know you’re into him but don’t take on needy low-value behavior out of desperation.

As I mentioned earlier you want to remain calm and focus on your own life and happiness.

Never stop moving forward, networking, taking care of your priorities, and taking care of yourself.

Men fall in love with women who love themselves and the life they’ve created for themselves.

4. Attraction

Although all that I’ve talked about so far is important if a man is not attracted to you physically, sexually, and energetically all you’ll ever have is a friendship.

So in order for a man to choose you over another woman he needs to feel more attracted to you than the other woman.

Beyond being physically attractive what really gets a guy’s attention and what creates intense attraction is when you start to embody your feminine energy.

Embodying your femininity is the key to becoming irresistible. It makes a man surrender to you, feel like he never wants to live without you, and like you’re the only woman for him.

When you tap into your feminine energy he will start to feel a magnetic pull to you-you become the yin to his yang. He will start to want to provide, protect, and pursue you instinctively.

Sometimes the woman a man has this sort of attraction for isn’t even the most beautiful choice.

However, when a woman embodies her feminine energy it can create this almost irrational attraction in a man.

You see there’s this thing called sexual polarity which is the universal foundation for attraction.

The more sexual polarity, the more attraction will exist.

Sexual polarity can only exist between masculine and feminine energy.

The problem most women have is they look beautiful but their energy and how they interact with men is masculine.

This is the number one reason why men leave or put beautiful women in the just friends or friends with benefits zone.

This used to be a huge problem for me until I learned how to be in my feminine energy and really connect to a man’s heart.


So those are my four powerful tips that will help you get the guy you want to choose you over another woman. I hope these tips were helpful!

Be sure to download my free guide: Attract the Man You Want

Also, please leave a comment below with any questions you may have!

Sending you love,

Alexandria Toledo

Founder, Alex In The Sun

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