What Every Guy Secretly Wishes His Girl Did More of

“All she ever wanted was unpredictable kisses and unforgettable laughter.” – Brandon Villasenor

There are certain things every guy wishes the woman in his life did more of. Today I’m going to share five of them with you. I’ve asked several men this question including my husband and their answers are what I’ve based this post on. So with that said, take heed ladies.

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Five Things he Wishes You Did More of

1. He wishes you were more direct with your communication. Give him the facts

Men want to know how to fix the problem so that they can make us happy. It’s hard for them to know how to do that when we speak indirectly about our needs. As much as we can, they want us to cut some of the emotion and vague phrases and instead give more logical explanations and the facts.

So if you want something or if you’re angry about something he did, tell him exactly what’s on your mind and how you feel. Do this even if you think he should already know why you’re upset or what you need him to do more of – never assume he knows.  Adopting a more direct form of communication with him will help meet his needs and yours so try not to hesitate at the opportunity.

2. Speak his love language… Often

Every man has a love language just like every woman does. Take the time to learn your man’s and have the courage to speak it on the regular. Doing this will do amazing things to the bond and connection between you and your guy making him more emotionally available and willing to satisfy your needs in return.

To help you discover each others’ love language check out the book, The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman. If you don’t want to read the entire book you could just take the test in the back of the book (which is what Chris and I initially did).

The 5 Love Languages are:

Words of Affirmation – Saying things like, “I’m so glad I have you in my life.” Or, “Thank you for always taking care of me.”

Acts of Service – Doing things like making him his favorite dinner or getting something done for him that’s stressing him out.

Receiving Gifts – A visual representation of love. Like giving him a thoughtful gift that took time and careful consideration.

Quality Time – Giving him your undivided attention. So spending time with him without distractions.

Physical Touch – Holding his hand, kissing him when you get in the car together, or talking to him with your hand on his shoulder.

Check out the Five Love Languages’ site for more detailed descriptions and examples here.

3. Laugh at his jokes

Not only does laughter make you magnetic and more attractive but it also strengthens the connection between you and your man. Yes, you’re his lover but long-lasting love is also based on friendship. Sharing more moments of laughter is something he secretly craves and it drastically helps build the friendship aspect of an intimate relationship.

Try to be more open to laughter when you’re with him and especially when he tells a joke. Of course, you should be authentic but at the same time make sure you’re being open-minded and receptive to opportunities to laugh with him.

When he sees that he can make you laugh it really makes him feel like he can make you happy. This is really important to most men.

4. Provide variety and spontaneity

Switch up the routine. If you’ve been married or dating someone for a while odds are you’ve settled into some sort of routine. Try changing things a bit by getting involved with a new social group, going to a new restaurant for date night, or seducing him while wearing a funky wig and sexy lingerie.

Doing things like this will keep your man on his toes and it’ll keep the mystery of you alive reminding me that there’s always more for him to discover.

5. Be his feminine partner and have his back

Be his safe haven, not someone he has to defend himself against. So if he tells you something that happened at work that upset him don’t look for reasons to blame him for what happened. Also, don’t offer unsolicited advice.

What you should do is listen to him without judgment – be soft, loving, and nurturing. The next time he’s stressed out offer him a back massage and play some nice music. If you do this you will be the person and presence he craves when he needs to relax and unwind.

Be the girl who isn’t afraid to give him what he needs but at the same time remember to embrace your femininity and to love yourself first.

I hope you enjoyed this post! Please leave a comment below if you have anything to add. Thanks so much for reading and don’t forget to subscribe to my email list for more relationship tips like this.

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